"I knew since childhood that I was gay. Yet, I was always so afraid to be my true self. I played the part of being the ideal female and daughter. I wore dresses, wore high heels, put on makeup, had my hair long and flowing, and dated guys. I made myself out to be what I felt everyone wanted me to look like and to be. I never felt comfortable in my own skin, or in women’s clothing. I thought that I would have to live my life a lie.
While living in Florida, in my mid-twenties, my friend and I started a book club. One of the books we chose was Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides. This book opened my eyes and my soul because it made me realize that up until that I couldn’t live my life that way any longer. Shortly after, I made the difficult decision to come out to close family and friends. Little by little, each day became easier and I was able to come into my own. Although the protagonist in the novel is intersex, I was able to relate to the character and his struggles. Some main themes of the novel are rebirth, the American Dream, and gender identity. These three themes I have been able to explore and eventually become my happy, true self."